35 years old everything going perfect, Never thought I will ever be DX with breast cancer, How? and Why? Tears

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Can't quite get you off my mind tonight. I am a member of a facebook group called We Are Sisters that has been a tremendous help. We started the group right after two women randomly walked me through my first few days of shock finding out I had cancer. I am so thankful for them all, and encourage you to join us and ask questions there. It is hard to even know what questions to ask at this point. But I do know the random spinning that your head must be going through. My first day was shock and I was strong. The second day my face kept leaking, even though I didn't break down. The third day, I found myself alone at home and couldn't take it. I went to a bar and "celebrated" boobies. Was not one of my finer moments. The next day I "ran away from home", which ... I kept my family informed of where I was the whole time, but I just felt I needed to get away. The following day, I hid like a hermit and decided I was not fit for public consumption. Finally, I had the day come around that I admitted to myself and my husband that I was ready to comply with whatever was demanded of me. This journey you are about to embark upon is not just a physical challenge. It is an emotional rollercoaster. Know that however you feel is okay. Become selfish for the first time in your life. Start removing all negativity from your life now. Protect yourself from stress and drama. Know that we are out here to embrace you on your sleepless nights. I am having one of those tonight. I used to be sad for people who found out they had cancer. Now it breaks my heart with every new diagnosis. This is not easy, but it is doable. I have so many cool suggestions of things I did to help me through surgery and recovery that I would love to share with you when you are ready. I don't come on this site often, but will try to follow up on you. I want to know how you are doing.

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anonymous

Learning About Breast Cancer

I understand exactly how you feel because I felt the same way. Once I got through the shock, I focused on treatment. I read as much as I could about my options and leaned on my husband and great friends. I learned a lot about myself through the experience. I am through all treatments and moving on with my life. My advice would be to take very good care of yourself through everything. Best of luck to you and keep us posted. God bless you.

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anonymous

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I'm so sorry to hear about your diagnosis. You've come to the right place. We've all been there. I've had breast cancer twice. The first time I was 44, and I had 3 kids: ages 7, 5, and 5 (twins). I was terrified. (The second time, last year, I was 56. It was a new cancer, not a recurrence. I carry the BRCA2 gene mutation.) I wanted to run away and I wished it was a dream. Of course it wasn't, and I had to do whatever was necessary to get rid of it. It's like a ski slope. You're at the top and you have no choice but to point your ski tips downhill and go. What I've learned is that you can't get ahead of yourself. You have to take it step by step. Absorb it then move on to the next step. I absolutely do not recommend searching the internet. There's a lot of bad information out there and it will only scare you. You should rely on your doctors to give you all the information you want or need in order to make decisions. Their recommendations are individualized for you. Please stay in touch. We're all here to share our experiences with you and to help you along the way. Best of luck!

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anonymous

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All of your answers are so positive and encouraging. I loved reading them. I'm so fortunate to have found this site. Thanks and God bless

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anonymous

Learning About Breast Cancer

Hi and soo sorry to hear of your dx. I was thirty one when I was dx and am now 32:) and doing much better. It was a LoNG year but know that it will pass. I am stage 3 with 8/10 lymph nodes positive and had bi lateral mast. 6 months of chemo 33 days of radiation and reconstruction surgery 3 weeks ago and I made it thru and u can too! I hope that u have lots of support because that will help tons! God bless u as u trudge on thru!

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anonymous

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I was 36. I was in disbelief ... I'm 42 now and VERY THANKFUL it was caught when it was. I'm sorry you too were so young.

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anonymous

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I'm so sorry for your discovery. I am 49 and found invasive cancer in February. Had to give up both breasts and ovaries. I don't know what the cause of your cancer is. Mine is estrogen based, which seems to be more and more common. In fact, they say 1 out of every 8 women will end up with breast cancer. I think (my own personal opinion) that the additives they give our foods, especially the hormones fed to animals that we consume, may possibly be the reason for this. I can't wait for the answers to be found. Stay strong. This whole thing sucks so bad. If you ever need anyone to talk to - regardless of the time of day or night, feel free to call me. You will find that your "cancer sisters" can be of great support. We don't want anyone to go through this alone. 208 681-8363. Elaine. Text anytime.

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anonymous

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I am so sorry! Please don't focus on the how and why. There aren't any answers for those questions. Allow yourself time to grieve but decide that this is NOT going to bring you down!!you WILL get through this!!! There are many women who have traveled this road before you and are here to help! Love and hugs to you!

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anonymous

Learning About Breast Cancer

I am 33 also. I was stage 3. I have 2 babies. No time for how and why. Only time for WHAT DO I DO ABOUT IT!!! Focus on that!

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anonymous

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We can relate very well as unfortunately we've all heard the shocking diagnosis:(. I'm 38 was dx May 24 with Triple negative IDC stage 2 grade 3. I am half way through chemo and I am kicking this cancers butt and you will too!!!! This is a great resource for support and questions! Best of luck to you!

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anonymous

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I'm 22 I've had A bi lateral mastectomy and I'm half way through chemo, this journey is crazy and I will not lie its not a walk in the park but it will change your life and who you are, in a positive way! God bless...always have faith!

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anonymous

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I was also 35 when I was dx last Oct. I was very healthy, active, nursed both my kids for over a year and didn't have any close family history and BAM! What I thought was a breast feeding lump turned out to be stage II IDC. The bottom line is this: breast cancer is striking younger and younger women ALL the time, despite health, background, age...it's not discriminating at all. So once you move beyond the initial devastation (which you will) and get a good team and plan in place ( which you will!) you will fight it!!!! I JUST finished radiation week ago. 9 months ago everything was dark and uncertain, but in the blink of an eye it is done and I am cancer free. You may never know why...but you can focus on this powerful emotion you are feeling on healing, not on grieving. From this point forward you are a survivor and you can fight the cancer and focus on making positive changes in your life to prevent the cancer from ever returning! Good luck!!!!! You can do it!

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anonymous

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I'm so so sorry... I was in your shoes less than a year ago. I'm post surgery, post chemo and post radiation now... and although, at times, it felt like the end of the world... I've emerged on the other side now and I'm still here. A changed, person. Better in many ways, not as great in some ways. But it's opened up my eyes to actually LIVING, and not merely existing. There's TONS of information on the internet. At first, it scared me. Heck, it STILL scares me. Even all the positive stories. I decided to avoid anything online related to Breast Cancer. I tried not to obsess. I figured once I was in treatment, if I had a symptom of one thing or another, I would research THAT symptom. I have made good friends through this process. I KNOW you are scared beyond words. Hang on tight to your support system. Hoping the best for your treatment and recovery.

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