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Conclusion

 
Conclusion

Chapter: 7 - Conclusion

Subchapter: 1 - Conclusion

The first step down this new road is learning about your diagnosis and treatment options, which you have done by watching Beyond the Shock®. Embarking on this journey requires you to not only be informed, but also to realize that you don’t have to face this alone.

Family, friends, and other breast cancer patients are your shield and safety net, carefully knit together to strengthen you. Alongside them, your triumphs over new hills will be celebrated; your struggles through new valleys endured. They can help you see past the shadows, reminding you that each step–each moment–is precious. Leaning on them for emotional and physical needs isn’t a sign of weakness, but rather a kind of healing for you and for them.

Beyond the Shock® is more than just videos; it is an online community of women around the world who are wrestling with similar emotions, questions, decisions, experiences, and fears.
You can ask questions and give answers. You can watch stories of hope and share your own.

Beyond the shock of breast cancer, there is still life.

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    My good friend has just been diagnosed with breast cancer. What can I do or say to help her through this?

    Asked by anonymous

    Learning About Breast Cancer
    over 8 years 4 answers
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    • Francine Williams Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Hello my name is Francine and I was where ur friend is now all I wanted to here was that my family/friends were goin to be there for me every step of the way !!Assure ur friend that GoD Makes no Mistakes and there's a million and one prayers goin her way!!Take care and remember to always smile...

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      Hello my name is Francine and I was where ur friend is now all I wanted to here was that my family/friends were goin to be there for me every step of the way !!Assure ur friend that GoD Makes no Mistakes and there's a million and one prayers goin her way!!Take care and remember to always smile that is one thing Cancer can't take from u

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    • Ali S Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2011

      Be there as often as you can. I remember it getting hard when ppl kept asking "how are you feeling?". Bc if I was honest I would have said I feel like crap, I'm scared, I feel sick, I'm afraid of dying, etc. So, get in the habit of saying: I hope you're feeling well today, or I was thinking of...

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      Be there as often as you can. I remember it getting hard when ppl kept asking "how are you feeling?". Bc if I was honest I would have said I feel like crap, I'm scared, I feel sick, I'm afraid of dying, etc. So, get in the habit of saying: I hope you're feeling well today, or I was thinking of you today. Also, don't say "let me know if there's something I can do" bc it puts the burden back on her and it's so hard to ask for help. Instead, ask when her appointments are and plan to go with her (if she has no one else that can go), stop by (call or text first) with a meal when she's sick from chemo and clean up a little while you're there. Bring funny movies or books ('the sh*t my dad says' is hilarious--someone gave it to me), bring gossip, distractions are good. Try not to probe by asking a ton of questions all the time, but let her know you're always there to listen. She'll start to open up when she wants. If she's sad, let her be. Be comforting but don't give advice. (like empathize and say you know it must be hard and scary, but don't say things like, look for the silver linking, or try to be positive...some days, she'll just be sad and angry will need a shoulder to cry on)

      When she's feeling well, keep her busy! If you aren't always free, create a calendar for friends/colleagues that can cook, visit, take her out, etc.

      If she plans on wearing a wig, offer to go with her to pick it out before her hair falls out. Then, when it starts to fall out, offer to shave it (my friend gave me a Mohawk).

      When her treatments are over, months from now, keep checking in...that's a tough time emotionally, even when hair starts to grow back. Breast cancer is life changing and we still think about it even post treatment.

      Of course, you can't do it all, but get your friends together to help with all of this.

      I've truly seen who my true friends are with how they've dealt with my diagnosis. I'm young(32), and I've read and agree that breast cancer is lonely for young women bc most of our peers have no idea what it's like. If your friend is young, help her check out programs for young women with BC

      best wishes

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  • Kim Amelio Profile

    My mom just got diagnosed - I am so scared. She sees the surgeon on Monday to schedule a bilateral mastecomy. What should I expect and what can I do?

    Asked by anonymous

    Family Member or Loved One
    over 8 years 2 answers
    • Diana Foster Payne Profile
      anonymous
      Stage 4 Patient

      Hi Kim, I'm sorry to hear about your Mom. It's wonderful that she has a caring daughter like you! :). I just had my bilateral mastectomy on Oct. 24th and am still recovering. Usually the hospital stay is just overnight. She'll have 2 or more drains that will need to be emptied periodically and...

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      Hi Kim, I'm sorry to hear about your Mom. It's wonderful that she has a caring daughter like you! :). I just had my bilateral mastectomy on Oct. 24th and am still recovering. Usually the hospital stay is just overnight. She'll have 2 or more drains that will need to be emptied periodically and the fluid measured when she returns home. Her dr and/or nurses should explain the correct way to do this. You could help her with this. She won't be able to lift anything over 10 lbs or drive for a few weeks. Also taking a bath with the drains can be a little tricky at first and might need some help. I took a long shoestring and tied the drains up ( like a necklace). This kept my incisions dry and drains out of the way so I could bathe. If she has a recliner ....that would be a great help. She won't be able to lie on her side to sleep for awhile and my recliner was a lifesaver for me as far as being comfortable! If not....then several comfy pillows so she can prop herself up would be good as well. All those things will help her as well as helping her with meals. Emotionally it's difficult losing your breasts. It will be an adjustment for her. Give her lots of TLC. :). I'll say a prayer for your Mom and best wishes on Monday!!

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    • Anne Marie jacintho Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2003

      Good Morning Kim,
      Diana gave you such good tips and what to expect. Your mom is lucky to have you at her side to go through this together. I too have some information that may help you and your mom through the rough first stages of recovery....always remember that there is light at the end of...

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      Good Morning Kim,
      Diana gave you such good tips and what to expect. Your mom is lucky to have you at her side to go through this together. I too have some information that may help you and your mom through the rough first stages of recovery....always remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel....I have written my experience in a paper I have posted on line for other women to read. Our type of breast cancer maybe different along with our choices of treatment, but the more we share and the more we know the better it is for us to deal with the road ahead. You may access my story at http://home.roadrunner.com/~amj (In my story I take you from the initial abnormal mammogram, the biopsy, surgery and recovery period after my bilateral subcutaneous mastectomies. I also have a reflection of a year later)
      May God Bless

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  • Traciann brundage Profile

    Just finished my second treatment . I feel old and weak. (night sweats and can't sleep) Any tips?

    Asked by anonymous

    Learning About Breast Cancer
    over 7 years 8 answers
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    • Evelyn Heilbrunn Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2012

      Boy, it sucks, doesn't it? I'm so sorry you're having to go through this but keep your eye on the prize, even when you feel like you can't lift your head up. This stuff is KILLING those little suckers, each and every one of them! You are stronger than they are. With your will and the chemo...

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      Boy, it sucks, doesn't it? I'm so sorry you're having to go through this but keep your eye on the prize, even when you feel like you can't lift your head up. This stuff is KILLING those little suckers, each and every one of them! You are stronger than they are. With your will and the chemo working against them, THEY WILL NOT WIN.

      Now, for the sleep thing. I also take Trazadone. The dose has varied from 100 to 400 mg a night, depending on how difficult it is for me to sleep. (I'm on Aromasin (Eximestane) now, and it gives me terrible insomnia!) The good thing about Trazadone is that it's not addictive and doesn't give you the weird side effects you can get from other sleep meds like Ambien.

      Exercise will also help you. I imagine that's the last thing you can think about, but i figured that just getting up and walking around the house was exercise so I did it and I think it helped!

      Best of luck to you!

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    • Sharon Danielson Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2007

      Oh Traciann.... you WILL start to feel better. Keep in mind, the chemo is kicking-butt to any cancer cells RIGHT NOW! It is doing what it is supposed to do. You bide your time, listen to your body, drink plenty of fluids and indulge yourself in some --caring-time-- for you. This is tough and...

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      Oh Traciann.... you WILL start to feel better. Keep in mind, the chemo is kicking-butt to any cancer cells RIGHT NOW! It is doing what it is supposed to do. You bide your time, listen to your body, drink plenty of fluids and indulge yourself in some --caring-time-- for you. This is tough and expected. You are right in the middle of it.... you take care of yourself, dear sister. Hang in there, we know how you are feeling and it does get better.
      Warm, fuzzy pony hugs. Sharon

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  • ann c Profile

    My sister will start her first chemo next week, what help you think she needs the most besides taking care of her 6 yr old girl?

    Asked by anonymous

    Learning About Breast Cancer
    over 7 years 7 answers
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    • julie s Profile
      anonymous
      Stage 2A Patient

      I had my first treatment two weeks ago. My sister has been a rock star... Drover to chemo, took me to store, picked up my scripts, took me for my neulesta shot, brought me food, made sure I took my meds on time, told me jokes, etc! I will never be able to tell her how much I appreciate her...

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      I had my first treatment two weeks ago. My sister has been a rock star... Drover to chemo, took me to store, picked up my scripts, took me for my neulesta shot, brought me food, made sure I took my meds on time, told me jokes, etc! I will never be able to tell her how much I appreciate her support!

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    • Erin Timlin Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2011

      Sorry...hit return... Anyway, I was hungry but couldn't bear to cook. It was one huge thing at a tough time of day that helped more than I anticipated. I have two little kids myself, so I think meals may help your sister! Good luck.

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