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Conclusion

 
Conclusion

Chapter: 7 - Conclusion

Subchapter: 1 - Conclusion

The first step down this new road is learning about your diagnosis and treatment options, which you have done by watching Beyond the Shock®. Embarking on this journey requires you to not only be informed, but also to realize that you don’t have to face this alone.

Family, friends, and other breast cancer patients are your shield and safety net, carefully knit together to strengthen you. Alongside them, your triumphs over new hills will be celebrated; your struggles through new valleys endured. They can help you see past the shadows, reminding you that each step–each moment–is precious. Leaning on them for emotional and physical needs isn’t a sign of weakness, but rather a kind of healing for you and for them.

Beyond the Shock® is more than just videos; it is an online community of women around the world who are wrestling with similar emotions, questions, decisions, experiences, and fears.
You can ask questions and give answers. You can watch stories of hope and share your own.

Beyond the shock of breast cancer, there is still life.

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  • Traciann brundage Profile

    You guys would be so proud of me . I told a family member it was mine and my husbands choice on treatment and they could know when I wanted to tell them . I don't really stand up for my self very often so this great . Had to share a success.

    Asked by anonymous

    Learning About Breast Cancer
    over 6 years 4 answers
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    • Sharon Danielson Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2007

      Traciann,
      Sometimes breast cancer brings with it some blessings. For you, it has brought out that inner courage that was probably already there. You are already showing you are up for the fight. You are a strong woman, and will win this battle. Good for you, Traciann. You will be ok. ...

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      Traciann,
      Sometimes breast cancer brings with it some blessings. For you, it has brought out that inner courage that was probably already there. You are already showing you are up for the fight. You are a strong woman, and will win this battle. Good for you, Traciann. You will be ok. Wishing you more strength and courage! Atta Girl! Blessings, Sharon

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    • julie s Profile
      anonymous
      Stage 2A Patient

      This is your journey! Share what you want with who you want when you want. It gets easier to share what's going on as your treatment plan is laid out. For me I'm glad I shared what is going on ( once I was ready to) because its been nice to have the support and encouragement and help from them....

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      This is your journey! Share what you want with who you want when you want. It gets easier to share what's going on as your treatment plan is laid out. For me I'm glad I shared what is going on ( once I was ready to) because its been nice to have the support and encouragement and help from them. Best of luck! ☺Julie

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  • Sam Alfaro Profile

    My mom just found out today that she has breast cancer. How can me and my family support her in every way possible?

    Asked by anonymous

    Learning About Breast Cancer
    over 7 years 3 answers
    • Shelley Zipp Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Sam, I'm sorry about your mom. I too have been recent diagnosed with breast cancer. Although all breast cancers are not alike ( I had a lumptectomy and lymph nodes removed, 1 node cancerous, and the surgeon removed all of the cancer and still have to go through chemo), the diagnosis is still...

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      Sam, I'm sorry about your mom. I too have been recent diagnosed with breast cancer. Although all breast cancers are not alike ( I had a lumptectomy and lymph nodes removed, 1 node cancerous, and the surgeon removed all of the cancer and still have to go through chemo), the diagnosis is still shocking. Luckily, even if its Stage II, or a large tumor, lots of women have survived worse scenarios than mine over the past decade or so. Continue, like my family did for me, to give her TLC, support and prayers. Accompany her to her dr's appts. It helps to have another body or 2 present, be it either friend or relative to ask questions and take notes. Especially important to have someone there because all the information you get is very overwhelming, and you or someone else might think of questions your mom hasn't thought of. Having a positive attitude helps too! Best wishes to you and your family.

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    • Ali S Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2011

      Just be there...sometimes she will be in good spirits, sometimes she'll need to cry. When she does, she needs compassion, not advice (I.e. If she says she's scared, don't minimalize it by saying everything will be fine or to think positive b/c frankly, we don't want to think positively. ...

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      Just be there...sometimes she will be in good spirits, sometimes she'll need to cry. When she does, she needs compassion, not advice (I.e. If she says she's scared, don't minimalize it by saying everything will be fine or to think positive b/c frankly, we don't want to think positively. Instead, say something like, I'm sure this is scary for you and I'm here for you).

      Set up a plan for family members to go to all appointments with her. Help her tell people b/c that can be overwhelming. Cook, clean, do laundry. See if neighbors/friends can set up a calendar to prepare meals, visit.

      Take her out when she's feeling good so it's not always about the cancer--and make het laugh!

      It sounds like she has a strong support group with you and your family ... That is crucial. I'll be thinking of you

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  • Caroline Foster Caubet Profile

    How do I tell my kids?

    Asked by anonymous

    Survivor since 1996
    almost 8 years 7 answers
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    • Caroline Foster Caubet Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 1996

      When I was diagnosed with breast cancer, my daughters were between 16 and 6. What could they hear? Obviously the message could not be the same for each one of them. I spoke to each one individually, without pronouncing the word "cancer". Their questions did come with time and I answered...

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      When I was diagnosed with breast cancer, my daughters were between 16 and 6. What could they hear? Obviously the message could not be the same for each one of them. I spoke to each one individually, without pronouncing the word "cancer". Their questions did come with time and I answered with simple words. What I wanted them to understand was that I was very sick, that I was fighting hard and that there was a pretty good chance that I would win the battle. I tried to give a message of hope. 15 years later, we talk about it and they say they appreciated understanding progressively.

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    • Elise Merchant Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      Well ive just turned 12 and my mum was diagnosed on January 05 2011 and i was 11 at the time and she came in and said to me- a soon as she got back from the hospital- Ellie theyve found a lump and so we hugged and then i asked is it cancer and she said it was. i was greatful that she told me...

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      Well ive just turned 12 and my mum was diagnosed on January 05 2011 and i was 11 at the time and she came in and said to me- a soon as she got back from the hospital- Ellie theyve found a lump and so we hugged and then i asked is it cancer and she said it was. i was greatful that she told me straight out that it was and that she was going to be fine :)

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    My recently diagnosed 40yr old sister-in-law doesn't want my help. We live 30 miles away and only see her a few times a year. Her church and neighbors are supportive. Any suggestions on how to be there for her?

    Asked by anonymous

    Learning About Breast Cancer
    over 7 years 4 answers
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    • Betsy Chapin Profile
      anonymous
      Survivor since 2010

      How to help? One thing about breast cancer is that it can be a long process between surgery, chemotherapy and radiation. I know when I was going through treatment, I didn't want help either and I didn't want people hovering over me because I was determined not to be a patient. However people...

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      How to help? One thing about breast cancer is that it can be a long process between surgery, chemotherapy and radiation. I know when I was going through treatment, I didn't want help either and I didn't want people hovering over me because I was determined not to be a patient. However people comforted me in many ways. My sisters who lived out of town, checked in with me weekly by phone or email, they sent care packages during the weeks I had chemotherapy with books, warm fuzzy socks, and sometimes sent flowers. My friends were determined to cook for me, but I was dreading being bombarded with visitors when I felt miserable. So I placed a cooler outside my door and they all took turns delivering food for my family when I could not function. One place I looked forward to having visitors was the chemotherapy room because I needed to sit there for a few hours and I was usually feeling quite well on those days. Some friends and family also drove me to radiation as it was an hours drive away. And then there were cards and notes in the mail that to this day I still read as I look back on how people helped me when I never wanted help, but that is what got me through the most difficult time in my life. I am thankful that so many people found a way to care. My thoughts are with you and your sister- in-law and I know you will find your own way to help her. Take care!

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    • Jennifer Jackson Profile
      anonymous
      Learning About Breast Cancer

      I agree with all of the above. Never underestimate the power of prayer. I recently experienced a very bad cancer scare, and felt comforted through the prayers of others.

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